I meant speaking on the phone when it interrupts what you need to be doing for yourself. Don’t let others pull you from your work or responsibilities. Don’t spend all your time checking your phone and not focusing on being here, now. So many people reach out to distract themselves from their own chaos. You don’t need to engage in that. Of course be there for loved ones, but manage your time so that you have time to work, read, walk, see the world around you. If you care for yourself in this way, you will feel more alive and in charge of your own life, which is a form of eros.