on life's terms Even if it is not perfect, even if not all is as you want it, still being in the presence of someone you love will be healing and softening for you. It will feel alive, full of eros. Even if this person does not give you everything you dream about but tries, be with him or her and enjoy the feeling of love and admiration you feel with this person. Enjoy the hope of connection, enjoy giving to the other. It will keep you in emotional shape. It will keep you flexible, and keep your compassion alive. It will not make love a tit for tat event, but one where you get the pleasure of wisdom of just enjoying being with another on life’s terms, not your terms.. It will strengthen you and give you self-respect that you are not giving into the child within you who says I want everything NOW, but giving into the adult who can give without immediate recompense.